Why do Senior Citizens Shout?
Someone asked in Quora: Why do senior
citizens shout at times instead of being polite? My take on the topic is given
below:
I do not want to justify why elders shout
while approaching an issue. However I can give a few reasons why they do so:
·
They
are, many of them, hard of hearing. They imagine others also understand only if
the speak aloud.
·
Secondly
they do not have patience nor implicit faith that normal speech would yield
results as they see others ill treating them everywhere, showing disrespect.
They imagine that only shouting will attract attention (similar to children
crying to gain attention)
·
“We
are experienced and know everything” is their starting point and they get
irritated when they are doubted or
questioned. It may be true that the experience may not be relevant to present
day needs / issues.
·
Some
of them may have enjoyed positions of power before retirement and feel a sudden
loss of engagement, power, social acceptance or authority. This upsets them and
they cannot digest it or cope with it. It manifests as shouting, impotent
anger, if I may say so
·
Some
seniors have a loud voice by nature. For instance my neighbor, retired employee
from corporate sector, always talks loudly. Entire family does so. We can hear
every bit they talk among themselves. So when the father calls from upstairs
his son living in ground floor, it almost looks they are quarrelling or
fighting. This habit extends to others outside the house also, say when he
talks to the garbage collector or the postman.
It is quite possible that the questioner
has not seen the same seniors he is finding fault with, in other settings like
say when they are in a meeting or in a temple or in a marriage. In these places
/ occasions their image / prestige is at stake and would behave with great
restraint.
All said and done
seniors are seniors and let them have the pleasure of giving vent to their
unquenched anger at the fag end of their lives. Others can learn to appreciate
the inner turmoil going on and not make a big fuss about it. What do you say?
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