Vyasa's Musings - Random Thoughts rendered into couplets

Vyasa's Musings

Random thoughts rendered into couplets

  

Why are our fears very acute during the night

but they appear, during the day, so light?

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Old dhoti, at your butt, will tear

if you bend without sufficient care

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If you push it in, after peeing, without care

Remember, gentlemen: light colored pants are a scare!

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Prompted by Suren, I learnt a lot about crop dusting

And the art of farting in public - not all that I read was disgusting.

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"Sleep Well" is reliable brand of Agarbatti

As it contains citronella -- a powerful "kosu-viratti"

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In the Voter Application form from a third gender, is it true

That Father is substituted by the applicant's 'Guru'?

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"Supra Eco Homes" claim that even elevators work on solar power

As if there would be sunshine all through 365 days of the year

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Raw Mango, Ridge gourd or bottle gourd peels

Are good for making chutney, don't you feel?

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Croma electric kettle has the worst deceitful design

You can't clean it or close the lid, once open, again.

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Before getting angry, will it not be nice

If you can realise it is a regrettable vice?

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One hand is enough to slap but two are required to clap

One hand is enough to slap but two are required to clap

You slap a person with one hand and that almost always happens on the spur of the moment arising out of galloping anger. You bring both hands together to clap to appreciate someone or something nice.  You also bring your hands together in Namaskar position to show respect to someone. Actions connecting both hands are happening after some responsible thinking on your part.

Slapping a person leads to unwanted or unexpected complications. You may be slapped back. The recipient may hold a grudge and deal with you later in unimagined ways. You might feel guilty but not have the courage to apologize. You may be admonished by others and you may be outlawed.

Clapping in appreciation is a win-win situation. Both are happy and mutual friendship grows. Showing respect with Namaskar fold of hands improves relationship. It is easy. Plenty of opportunities turn up every day.

The title “One hand is enough to slap but two are required to clap” has deeper connotations. Not just applicable to the use of hands. In any situation where we may harm ourselves and others by negative emotions that are quick to surge like anger, envy, fear etc, it is better to practice switching by slowing down. Just take a couple of deep breaths. Scenarios will change instantly. Try and tell others your experience.

Why choose to use only one hand when God has given you two? Preachy, I might sound. But this write-up, is in fact a reminder to myself to make deliberate choices that are helpful and not harmful.

Practical Advice to Handle Angry guys – that includes you!

Practical Advice to Handle Angry guys – that includes you!

Nowadays I find many senior citizens becoming target of anger at the hands of youngsters. Seniors are targeted because they are vulnerable, cannot (more often, do not want to) fight back because of peculiar circumstances they are in. As they are likely to be mature through experience spanning six or more decades, handling other peoples’ anger should not be difficult.

Why do people get angry? It is because of disappointment over expected things not happening or unexpected things happening. Therefore the root cause is expectation as to how things ought to be. Can we learn to accept things / events as they happen without our seeing them through colored glasses? That is, without any sort of emotional involvement? Let us see.

What to do if someone is angry at you? If you are sane and calm, keep quiet and just listen. Later, try to get at the root of the problem. Most often anger is only the external symptom. Causes could be hidden and not apparent. If you are equally in non-receptive mood, just move away. Don’t try to reason out or justify. This only aggravates the issue.

What to do when you are visibly angry? If the person on whom you are angry is someone who would stomach it, vent off your anger and apologize when you cool down. This could be a subordinate, wife or a friend who understands the situation, cooperates by keeping quiet and not adding fuel to the fire. Displaying anger when it comes and cooling off, compromising are better than bottling up anger that leads to stress and increase of Blood Pressure.

If the person upon whom you are angry is someone to whom you cannot afford to display your anger (consequences would be highly unpleasant), then try to control your anger by moving away from the scene; force yourself to sit and take a couple of deep breaths

Getting angry could be a routine pattern of reaction to many. It could be defense mechanism. The trigger could be trivial and a matter of no concern at all, most of the times. Hard core angry men who would not ever realise the futility of getting angry, or those who don’t realize the harm they causing to others need counseling and help. Provide these if feasible. If this is not possible, cut off your relationship and don’t see him again.