A Blog for Senior Citizens by a senior citizen. Most posts are written by me and others are relevant news items. Emphasis on India. As posts could be made in quick succession, please see the Index (Archive) to see earlier ones. If you comment I won't lament.
It is very annoying to all participants
when the speaker’s presentation is interfered with extraneous noise. So, you
must keep your mike muted and switch it on only when you have something to
speak, and perhaps after raising your hand and getting permission to do so. Some
reasons why you should mute yourself, just to make you aware of probable local
interferences, are listed below:
1. 1. Some Window shutter
may be banging / curtain movements due to wild wind 2.Some construction
or repair work going on nearby 3.Vendors in the
street on their way (nowadays they use loud speakers) 4.Noisy kitchen
nearby – frying, grinding masala etc 5.TV running in the
hall, perhaps a fight of foolish actors 6.Some body
knocking at the door or ringing the doorbell 7.Landline or
Mobile callers 8.Stray / street
dogs chasing and barking 9.Mom / wife /
children yelling at you or at each other among themselves 10.Servants and your family members in loud chatter 11.Someone sleeping and snorting away 12.Yourself yawning unmindfully and unmanageably out of
shear boredom 13.An alarm for the motor pump set or egg timer on its
job 14.Water running in the bathroom 15.Yourself farting aloud involuntarily
You might be wondering why I
am listing silly causes of continual disturbances.But believe me, most of these, I have
experienced my self and are not purely out my imagination. So, beware: mute
yourself for your sake and for the sake of others, please.
Three old men were taking a walk one fine day in July. One remarked to the other, "Windy, isn't it?" "No," the second man replied, "It's Thursday." And the third man chimed in, "So am I. Let's have a coke."
Despite such severe hearing problems, senior citizens crave to be heard. They just want to talk to someone. I envy people who prefer to be alone and enjoy their own company. Such wise guys need no others to make them happy. This is an excellent trait to be cultivated seriously. It will be most useful to senior citizens. Older persons are most likely to be left alone with no one even to talk to. Many elders crave to be heard.This is a pathetic situation. Can we do something about this condition?
We can tackle this issue once we know the reasons for the craving senior citizens have for having someone to listen to them.As one ages, friends leave one by one. Siblings and other relatives also die sooner or later. Children and others at home have no time or interest in elders. They are busy in their own world. There is a severe mismatch in the interests of the young and old groups. Retired persons have no captive listeners they used to enjoy when they were employed or otherwise in power.They are afraid of their own company and have not learnt the art of being alone and enjoy it. A sense of emptiness and despair starts gnawing the soul. They have no one to turn to either for talking, sharing ideas and worries.As old people often repeat the same old stories, listeners tend to escape being caught. Oldies can not much talk of future as that is bleak and sealed. Youngsters, on the other hand, are more interested in discussing current happenings and guessing and gossiping about people and immediate future.
This craving may either be catered to or simply shunned.Nowadays many senior citizens organizations and counseling centers are offering free listening services to the elderly.PESU service of Society for Serving Seniors, Secunderabad is an example. PESU is an acronym for "Personalized Ear-lending Services Unlimited".Volunteers from PESU listen to lonely senior citizens over telephone during pre-arranged timings.Another organization, Support4grief, located in many cities, operates a Help line that provides free, anonymous, unconditional, non judgmental and a confidential listening ear to the needy. Here the beneficiary need not be senior citizens, though many seniors find it useful.
Joining clubs or associations or going to Day Care Centers may alleviate the problem; however, all may not be able use these services because of distance, time and costs involved.
Learning to come to terms with reality – that loneliness and having no companions is something to be faced bravely and it strikes many in old age – is the best way to handle it. What can not be cured has to endured, as the saying goes.Many seniors do manage being alone boldly and beautifully. Why not you?
