Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Ten Tips for Safety and security of women in Taxis and autos

Recently there was a case of abduction / kidnap of a middle aged lady
who is a resident of our colony. She is QC Techie (Infosys) in cyberabad. Missed
her company bus and chose to take an auto. The driver had a friend
sitting next to him. When she noticed that the vehicle was going in
wrong direction she raised an alarm, shouted and tried to stop the
auto. Meanwhile her handbag fell out of the auto with all IDs and
cellphone. The accomplice sprayed something on the lady's face to
control her. She fell unconscious and when she woke up she was
somewhere in Medchal. Meanwhile the police contacted the husband and a
hunt was started. Ultimately the captors bought her a bus ticket and sent home.
There were severe bruises and signs of thrashings when
she returned home after about 12 hours of struggle in captivity. There seems to
have have been some negotiation and settlement. Finer details are not
known to me.

I would like to offer a few tips to women traveling alone in autos and
taxis.Many of these are applicable to vulnerable senior citizens also.

1. Always send an SMS to some friend as soon as you sit in the auto.
Always tell someone or the other over cell phone as to where you are
going to. Fake the conversation if needed.
2. Carry a pepper spray or some such self protection device and have it ready for use, though discretely, say under a kerchief.
3. If in trouble, draw the attention of others by banging metal object against
another metal - say a tiffin box  on body of the auto
4. If you have water in water bottle pour it out slowly to leave a
trace / draw attention.
5. Invest time to learn karate, judo etc.this is on long term basis.
6. If you can equip yourself with a battery powered hooter, get it and use it.
7. Abroad, Tasers are available for private use. Persons having access
to buying things abroad may equip themselves with this.
8. Never get into an auto that already carries a driver's friend /
accomplice. IF the driver stops to pick up a friend on the way, just
refuse to entertain and walk out.
9. While traveling in an auto alone, never get absorbed in reading
some book and forget to be alert as to where you are going. If the
route is unknown, keep track of localities covered - this may be
useful later on.
10. Never show you are worried or afraid. Put on a bold face, be
prepared; Don't be paranoid either. Practice to be ready for any
eventuality. Don't get chatty with the driver and pass on all kinds of
info about yourself.





Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Book Details: Unsolicited Advice to Enigmatic Elders

Unsolicited Advice to Enigmatic elders:
Too many Questions, too few answers

This book is a compilation of random selection of articles I have
written in my blogs and elsewhere. It is put in print form to reach a
larger audience who do not have access to Internet. To emphasize that
I haven't been successful understanding the psychology of senior
citizens, though I have been working for and with this age group for
about ten years, the title contains the poignant word – 'enigmatic' !

Most of the articles in the first section are of advising but
adversarial in nature, rather written in preaching style that may
irritate those who read! Hence the warning: 'unsolicited'. First
section deals with some deficiency, difficulty or some weakness or the
other of older persons and suggests ways of handling them. In the
second section I give a series of reviews of books, websites, blog
sites and portals; these are recommendatory in nature. The third
section talks of a few services and service providers specific to the
retired group. Next section is a set of articles where the thought
content is contributed by many of my friends collectively via the web
group that I moderate. The last section is a motley collection of
stories that can not be grouped easily – they tell about my self.

I trust you will find this book enjoyable enough to recommend it to
your friends.
To order a copy (RS 175 plus postage) go to:

http://pothi.com/pothi/book/dr-p-vyasamoorthy-unsolicited-advice-enigmatic-elders

CONTENTS
Section 1 : Articles
Why are Senior Citizens conservative and rigid? 12
Does the World revolve around you? 15
Why do Senior Citizens crave to be heard? March 23, 2010 17
Why do Senior Citizens have Learning Phobia? 19
Why Do Senior Citizens retire mentally too? 21
Why are Senior Citizens full of Ego? 23
Why Do Senior Citizens Feel Lonely? 25
Why do Senior Citizens Become Religious after Retirement? 27
Why do senior citizens find it difficult to adjust after retirement? 29
Why do Senior Citizens repeat same old stories? 31
Why do many old people fight wherever they go? 33
Why do Senior Citizens make frivolous demands? 35
Why Should God always be with you? 38
Four ways to revive a friendship 40
How Senior Citizens can keep learning for ever? - Consider U3A 42
Are you a compulsive hoarder – Need some advice? 44
Some Tips to Read Small Prints 46

Section 2: Book & Web reviews
Book Review: Geriatric Housecall Project 51
Book Review: Pensioners Handbook 2010 53
Managing the Unmanageable Child by Dr Vaidyanathan 55
Book Review: Probus Guide for Seniors 57
The Joy of Ageing by PV Ramamurti – Book Review 59
How to Cure Diseases with Natural Foods: Book Review 62
A Review of Some Second Career jobsites 66
RREWA Website is a boon to pensioners 69
Old Age Solutions : Website Review 71
Senior World Chronicle : Blogsite Review 73
SECTION 3: Services for the Elderly
Free Listening Services for the Elderly - PESU 75
Listening Services – Volunteers List 77
Free Medical Advice over Phone: 104 Service 81
Mayacare Errand Services for the Elderly 83
SECTION 4: Not by me alone: Collective authorship
Culinary Tips from seniors: How to thicken Sambar 87
Senior Citizens Turn Creative 89
STREET VENDORS : A co-operative enumeration 91
Cremation or Burial: What do Senior Citizens prefer? 95
SECTION 5: Miscellaneous
Senior Citizens are also known as … 99
The S philosophy of vyaSa 102
VIRTUAL LINK 104
I lost my wife to Pancreatic Cancer on 30th November 2009 106